Reviews

“I didn’t know what to expect going in and I was pleasantly surprised and well pleased. The course was organized, methodical, and kept my interest at all times. This is a relatable course applicable to anybody! What a better world it would be if everyone took this class, IMO, the earlier on in life the better.”

“This was such an eye-opening seminar. It helps you understand why we do what we do. It is right to the point and done in a way that is easy to understand. It helps you understand what the root problem is and how to fix it.”

“Relationships have extreme value. It is so worth the time to learn how our core desires play out in our lives & relationships. Relatable stories, helpful metaphors & applicable teachings were presented clearly, with excellence. Thank you!”

“Dave’s material opened my eyes…”.

“Having an understanding helps me have relationships with others. Having an honest description of the wickedness of my heart, helps me to address the issues, and strive toward making decisions to change…”.

“The Three Desires does give some valuable insight. It’s worth sitting through. Just ready yourself, there’s a decent amount of notetaking.”

“I have never been to a seminar like this before and I actually enjoy learning new things as a 23 year old fiance. I came to learn new things. I really enjoyed it…leaving with a full mind and would definitely come again.”

“This conference was relatable and easy to understand.”

“…Dave explained the three catagories of basic human desires. He provided examples of how these desires affect our relationships, and how we can identify them. He peppered this with a few stories and his simple illustrations (they are much like a coach uses to demonstrate a football play). In the end he provided the solution and brought it all together. I enjoyed it very much.”

“This seminar was full of great information that will help me both in my personal relationships and in my professional relationships. Thank you for taking the time to share with us.”

“Very good seminar. Well presented. Great material. I would recommend it highly.”

“[Dave’s] content is much needed in our world today. The presentation utilizes science, psychology and, most importantly, the Bible as the foundational building block for the deep-dive into who we are and why we do what we do…a great seminar!”

“Material was presented in very much bite-sized pieces–even as it was a lot of material. Breaks were timely and helpful…. Thank you for the great research, organization of material, visuals, and gentle presentation.”

“Defined my struggle. Showed me the answer. Dave gave a big picture of why and motivations for the way I live.”

“Dave helps to debunk myths and rightly understand worldview philosophy vs biblical worldview. He further helps to understand human desires and how to rightly use those desires to honor/glorify God.”

“Thanks so much for all of your efforts and hard work putting this all together. Tremendous insight!”

“I sure enjoyed today. Thank you Dave for your insight. God bless you!

P.S. Very humbling”

“It was very interesting the way you described, towards the end, the three Desires that God gave to humankind…I would definitely recommend this conference to others.”

“Hospitality was amazing. Julie did a great job setting the atmosphere and was very pleasant. …Dave did a great job explaining the 3 Desires. Never heard it taught this way…”.

“A+. Third time attended since so helpful.“

“This is the second time I’ve attended Three Desires because it counteracts myths in popular psychology, and I wanted to get the correct perspective engrained. I learned the importance of understanding desires and how they effect relationships. I also learned that opposing desires generate conflict. I’d recommend this to anyone who works with others. The seminar is so good, and Mr. Bender’s style is excellent.”

“Great information professionally delivered by an outstanding presenter. Splendid breakdown with expert information. Full circle tie-in with the Bible and God’s plan.“

“Dave’s seminar, brought up topics that we all take for granted, also makes us realize what we have and how we act toward others and changes we can make to be a better listener, a reality check that we sometimes need in life.”

“Excellent, innovative…Dave’s transparency wisdom and humor keeps one’s interest….Gained tremendous insights spiritually intellectually and psychologically. Good lunch & snacks :) Thank you!”

“My take aways: Conflict is a result of a clash of desires. Recognizing the clashing desires is the beginning of resolution like finding the holes that need to be plugged in a sinking boat…”.

“This seminar is well worth the time for even an individual not just a couple. Also for a person of any age.”

“Really enjoyed hearing about The Three Desires. It was able to see myself in God’s life.”

“Excellent seminar!! So glad I attended!!

“Thank you so much for your hard work and dedication in this seminar. It was such a blessing to attend. It was such a clear description of why we do the things we do. It will certainly help me recognize the struggles in my relationships & how to address them. As well as help me as I work with others at work or in my life.”

“This seminar has been very informative. It has helped me put my own desires into perspective…”.

“This seminar was very helpful in gaining discernment of my own heart & other people in my life as well. It helps to get to the root of why I do what I do…”.

“Great exposure to recognizing your own sins and struggles…have never really stepped back to think about my sins the way I have today!”

“Very beneficial for exactly where I am in life! A new better perspective and a helpful place to start working on the things that I learned in the seminar. Well worth the time invested and money spent!”

“A profound and crutial foundational awareness that everyone will benefit from, leading the way to a much more fulfilling life. Loved this class, would love to have another one.”

“This seminar was useful; unique and applicable…I’m in my 50’s, have a college degree and have a decades-old relationships to Christ, but yet I learned many new truths which I’ll use.”

“Great seminar = Really helps you identify most issues are created because you are selfish. To repair conflicts we need to ask what can I change first.”

“The information shared in this seminar is life-changing, not only for me as a professional counselor but also for my (Christian) clients that I intend to share these concepts with. I would recommend this seminar to anyone wanting to have better relationships and better knowledge of self. Thank you!”

“What a great journey in exploring the desires and the transition from the natural to the spiritual. With our problem being misdirected desires & the solution only in Christ.”

“This was a very benificial & helpful seminar. It helped me to realize that our desires are not bad, we just have to train ourselves to redirect them toward God.”

“This was eye opening and helpful. We learned about how conflict stems from internal desires and the only solution is Jesus Christ. I saw my own sinful heart and was reminded of my great Savior!”

“The three desires class was an enlightening correlation between the challenges of life and gives an understanding of the promises of scripture to properly navigate the waters in a holy way thank you for your insight”

“Dave presents valued, life pertinent information in a loving way that not only allowed me to understand it, but put it into practice.”

“This seminar was very helpful realigning my desires back to God. It is very easy to allow them to be influenced by worldly desires & live for self, but this reminder was very helpful & refreshing…”.

“Very informative. Well presented. So glad I came. Thank you for all the food, drinks, handouts, tablets, info, presentation, Great! Exceeded expectations. (I expected it to be good.)”

“I did not believe it could be so simple to breakdown the desires of humanity into 3 desires that cover the whole spectrum of human needs. Very Eye Opening!”

“It’s a wonderful conference. I wish more people knew about it.”

“Excellent – second time attended. Very worthwhile to attend again. (& apply principles).”

“I greatly appreciated the well-structured presentation of information which helps me to understand interpersonal relationship struggles more objectively. Thank you!”

“Very informative! This seminar gave me many things to think about and to work on changing. Great information that was presented well. Thank you!”

“Very important message applicable to the way we live moment by moment. Overall it was a delight to be a part of your conference.”

“God spoke to me directly regarding Desire #3 when it was asked ‘Isn’t it biblical for your spouse to put you 1st under God’…He told me ‘That is GOD’S EXPECTATION OF OUR SPOUSE & HE WILL DEAL W/THAT, RELEASE THAT EXPECTATION OF YOUR SPOUSE – THAT IS THEIR SIN – DON’T MAKE IT YOUR SIN’ That is HUGE FOR ME!!!”

“Very good at going over three desires and explaining what they are. Could spend more time talking about the hope we have that was touched on in the end. Overall it was worth the time spent learning about and thank you very much.”

“The specific outline of my mind and motives in present day context reveals problem areas that require attention.”

“This opened my eyes from a different perspective. Thank you! During lunch God placed Dave at our table for insightful conversations!”

“Thank you very much for the Three Desires Seminar! I learned a lot, and will use it to try to improve relationships (with my wife, children, etc.) going forward. The seminar is an excellent marriage enrichment opportunity. [Dave] and Dr. Fletcher do a great job of answering your questions along the way.”

“Love the format. Love the info. Love the message. Made me think much deeper into my understandings of Desire and how it affects me, my marriage, my family, my life. I will be using these tools to keep me together and stop the crumbling in my life.”

“Very interesting! This seminar has given me a lot to think about and it has given me hope for the future.”

“First time in a seminar of this type. Nicely organized information, clearly explained…”.

“Thank you! My family & I were in a chaotic time and beginning of a healing place with a lot of work to do. Three Desires has opened doors for all of us. We are now seeing where each of us struggle and how to help each other redirect. As well as recognizing potential conflicts before it gets out of control. Thank You”

“I see how ‘dark’ my heart is from this training, not condemning. But it’s good to see that we’re all the same.”

“This has been so beneficial and insightful! I thoroughly enjoyed how this seminar was taught by Dave with wisdom, humor and real-life examples of vulnerability. Great resource and I have been a counselor for many years! I highly suggest investing in yourself with this training.”

“This seminar opened my eyes to see the desires of my heart, and what I need to do with them so that I’ll have less conflict in my marriage.”

“This seminar opened my eyes to a lot of blinders that I had. It revealed to me the root issues in my life not just the symptoms.”

“This training helped me understand who I am and how I am supposed to act.”

“This really opened up my eyes as to how my household runs, especially with the ‘directors.’ I am interested to see how this plays out moving forward.”

“This training opened my eyes to a new perspective that has changed how I see myself and others and the reason for our behaviors.”

“This helped me see myself & others at a deeper level, good examples & illustrations that were easy to grasp, good practical tips.”

“Much appreciated-well covered, would like a series II.”

“One of the most informative, interactive thought process sessions I’ve attended in years. The ‘Impression Management’ teaching was worth the cost of the day alone.”

“It really connected the dots for me. Helping me to see the true root of the problem makes success attainable.”

“The seminar was wonderful. The information we received will help us not only in our mentoring but also in our own marriage. It opened our eyes to the desires the drive our behavior.”

“I really learned so much about the desires that drive behavior.”

“I didn’t know what to expect coming in, but my experience was eye opening. This course was insightful & thought-provoking.”

“This presentation helped to identify how some root issues of mine can affect my relationship…. Also very helpful tips on how to handle issues with our kids.”

“Understanding the ‘three desires chart’ has had an impact on me.  It helped me see myself and my own desires for what they are.”

“The chart used divided the desires into relevant terms for modern life…. Very helpful course to show why we do what we do and how we can fix it…!”

“It was helpful because we were able to see clearer our part in the family struggles and it is common to have these struggles. It also helped in ways we can, in turn, help others in the same situation.”

“I recommend this training because it shows the deeper issues people have below the surface that lead to the negative behaviors…. This training helped me to distinguish between surface and root problems I have, so I can catch myself more quickly when I’m about to lose my temper…”.

“Before I learned these things, I was so blind to my own faults. I was such a blame shifter, and so so so selfish. It’s embarrassing to think about how selfish I must have looked to other people. I wish I had learned these things earlier. Now I find that I can actually ‘see’ what’s happening inside me and I catch myself…I can live for my family and other people around me rather than myself. It’s a relief.”

“[Dave] truly is passionate and desires to help families be healthy…. The teachings have taught me to not only look at faults of those around me but truly look at myself.”

“This training helped me to see how much I struggle with pride. [This] allows me to work on improving my shortcomings.”

“I did not realize that the Bible has so much to say about our human nature and what our wants and desires are really rooted in. What I’ve learned…has helped me to understand why I do what I do, and more importantly why doing what I do sometimes lands me in a world of hurt.”

“This training raises a multitude of questions that should be addressed by a troubled couple.”

“[I learned that] what we have inside us comes out to the surface during times of stress.”