Answers

It’s not easy to decide to get counseling or to register for a marriage or parenting seminar:

  • Is the expense worth it?
  • Will I get the answers I need?

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You Will Get Answers

You will get answers to these questions and more: (Not only that, you will understand the deepest reasons for behaviors so you can answer your own hard questions. You may want to attend this seminar before you do any counseling.)

    • Why do people fight? You’ll be able to answer this with a single word. You’ll be surprised you didn’t figure it out yourself. Marriage counseling and relationship counseling that can’t answer this question cannot be entirely helpful, and most couples who can’t stop fighting do end up considering divorce. (Counseling topic: conflict.)
    • Why do some people wear masks and hide their true self? (Counseling topic: identity.)
    • Why are so many men so focused on pleasure? There are two base reasons and when you learn these you will see that it’s not all that complicated. Does your counselor know these reasons? (Counseling topic: desires.)
    • What is the deepest way to understand human motivation beyond nature and nurture? In other words, what really “moves” us to thought and action. Good counseling must address this. (Counseling topic: human motivation.)
    • Why do couples fight over money? Let’s be honest, partners almost always view money a little differently. For couples considering divorce, fights over money are usually frequent, so knowing the desires “beneath” the money arguments will help you. (Counseling topic: conflict.)
    • What can you do to stop yourself from fighting with your children? There are no easy-buttons or magic bullets here. This will take work on your part–you will need to grapple with your deepest thoughts and wants. (Counseling topic: parenting, conflict.)
    • Here are the top behavioral problems of children which family counseling and therapy must address: disrespect, defiance, backtalk, aggressiveness, lying, bullying, manipulation, laziness. Are your children doing any of these? Why? Did you notice your children didn’t need to be taught how to do these? They were already existent and operative early on. Where did they come from and how can parents address these with confidence? True love will cause you to do the hard thing in a given situation. (Counseling topic: parenting, behavior.)
    • What can a parent do about whining? When you understand what’s behind whining, you will know what to do. We give you two short, stress-free sentences to say that fix whining. It sometimes works in less than a day. (Counseling topic: parenting, behavior.)
    • What causes someone to be overly concerned about appearance and their social media persona? Have you noticed that those who are most focused on massaging their public image through social media are usually the ones who have the hardest time with relationships? This article touches on the problem, but we’ll approach this from another angle. Being overly concerned about image and appearance can affect relationships because it’s a self-centered mindset that makes it all about “me” instead of “we.” Take this test to see if you have a problem. Most counseling doesn’t know how to address this. (Counseling topic: image, relationships.)
    • Why are some people so narcissistic? Click here to read about Narcissism. After the seminar, you will understand the behavior of the narcissist better than the narcissist himself/herself. (Counseling topic: behavior.)
    • What’s really behind the inferiority complex? HINT: It’s people who accurately compare themselves with others, and correctly see they have lesser ability/status, who can develop an inferiority complex. What’s happening here? Warning: you might find yourself pushing back at this teaching. (Counseling topic: motivation, self-image.)
    • Why are we so enamored with famous and beautiful people? Why are those magazines at store checkouts so captivating? (Counseling topic: desires.)
    • Why is it that children can be so mean? Both those who grow up in nurturing homes and those from rough homes can do some ugly things. (NOTE: We easily mistake the “vulnerability” of children for “innocence.” Those who believe children are completely innocent either haven’t been a parent or a teacher, or they are hopelessly romanticized about the nature of children. It’s disturbing what children can sometimes do to each other when adults are absent.) (Counseling topic: parenting, behavior.)
    • Why is there so much evil in the world? If people are innately good then why are all these good people doing so many bad things? (Counseling topic: self-understanding.)
    • Why do some people totally isolate themselves and shut themselves off from others? (Counseling topic: self-understanding.)
    • Why do some men never want to talk? Sadly, this can happen even at marriage counseling. (Counseling topic: marriage, relationships.)
    • Why does your husband or wife, or anyone else, clam up? Blow up? (Counseling topic: marriage, relationships.)
    • What is one major cause of addiction? We won’t be so simplistic as to try to explain all addiction, but there is one major aspect you must know. (Counseling topic: self-help.)
    • What’s behind procrastination? (Counseling topic: self-help.)
    • What causes greediness and stealing? (Counseling topic: self-understanding.)
    • What’s the “Know-It-All” thinking that causes him or her to speak a word about just about everything? (Counseling topic: self-understanding.)
    • What causes a person to be a “control freak?” Relationships with a control-freak never work unless one partner doesn’t mind being controlled. Is your current counseling addressing the reasons for control? (Counseling topic: relationships.)
    • Why are some people so easily offended, touchy, argumentative, and opinionated? What’s happening below the surface that’s causing this? Once you learn this, you will understand people better, and then you’ll be able to have patience and navigate this with kindness. Is your counseling/counselor addressing this? (Counseling topic: self-understanding.)
    • Why is it some people are never able to go very deep in relationships? For them, it seems every relationship is hollow and distant with nothing really close. (Counseling topic: marriage, relationships.)
    • You’ve probably met someone who wants to be loved, adored, and be someone’s all-in-all. That usually doesn’t play out well in real life does it? What’s happening here? (Counseling topic: self-understanding, relationships.)
    • What causes racism and elitism? (Counseling topic: relationships.)
    • Do you have a hard time apologizing? Why is that? (Counseling topic: relationships.)
    • What causes divisions between people? (Counseling topic: relationships.)
    • What causes arguments between couples? (Counseling topic: marriage, relationships.)
    • What causes fights between siblings? When you understand this, you can help your children navigate their relationships with you, their siblings, and others. You can give them a head-start in life by helping them see the world as it really works. The three desires we teach are what really drive our entire world. Is your family therapy or family counseling helping with this? (Counseling topic: parenting, behavior.)
    • You’ve met people who have a high need for admiration. Why are they like that? You maybe avoid these kinds of persons, right? (Counseling topic: relationships.)
    • What is the deepest reason for pouting in children (and adults)? What can you do to stop it? (Counseling topic: parenting.)
    • Are desires good or evil? Should we be concerned about ridding ourselves of desire? (Counseling topic: self-understanding.)
    • What disastrous event in the history of mankind caused chaos in the psyche of man? Have you noticed the self-centered approach you tend to have toward life? It’s not easy to care about others is it? Everyone has this problem. Why? (Counseling topic: caring for others.)
    • How are we to understand psychology’s teaching on nature and nurture? Is there value in understanding these? Yes, but there’s something much deeper and more important to understand. The nature/nurture explanation of human behavior tends to treat the human as passive and leaves you believing you are a result of things you can’t control. Good counseling must teach that we are not passive in our interactions. (Counseling topic: psychology, self-understanding.)
    • Ever been in a “unilateral listening” conversation where you knew the other wasn’t listening but prepping the next argument? Have you ever done that? What’s behind this? (NOTE: Problems will never be solved when one or both isn’t listening.) (Counseling topic: marriage, relationships.)
    • Why do some people always have to “one-up” everyone else? (Counseling topic: self-image.)
    • Have you been counseled to “love yourself,” and maybe have found that counseling advice to be hollow and doesn’t actually work? Why does “love yourself” not work? (Of course, we must take care of ourselves and not allow ourselves to be manipulated by others, but you will notice that people who “love themselves” supremely tend to have the most relationship problems.) (Counseling topic: self-understanding.)
    • How does “self-monitoring” and “impression management” affect relationships? Quintessential illustration: Think of the shallow teen girl meeting the cute teen guy–the flips of the hair, the phony giggles, the coy smiles, and the flattery. It’s a one-act play on the stage of life that has very specific end goals. How does this approach to relationships affect the relationship long term? (HINT: whenever one person in a relationship only cares about self, that relationship is destined for failure.) What’s really behind self-monitoring and impression management? This article on self-monitoring will get you thinking. And this one will get you thinking about impression management. Consider this: if your relationship began with self-monitoring and impression management, you’re probably struggling now aren’t you? (Counseling topic: self-image, desires.)
    • How does “triangulation” affect relationships? A relationship cannot thrive where triangulation exists. (Counseling topic: relationships.)
    • What is the single most important thing that must be learned in marriage counseling, marriage therapy, relationship counseling, parental counseling, and family counseling? (Counseling topic: marriage and relationships.)

We realize it’s bold to suggest we can answer questions like these. Please read the bottom of the About Us page to see why we’re so confident.

MARRIAGE: Your marriage is nothing to laugh about. If you want a better marriage, then go deeper in your understanding of people. When you understand yourself and hold yourself accountable, your relationships will change. When you understand others, and can have patience with their failings, your marriage and relationships will improve.

PARENTING: Your children need your guidance because they lack the wisdom to understand themselves and the world around them. You must guide their behavior, but how can you do that without understanding the “why” behind the behaviors? Children do what they do for very specific reasons and you should know what they are. TIP: one of the biggest lies of parenting is that if you discipline them and guide them too much that you will squash their creativity. The actual truth is that if you don’t help them do the right thing and point them in the right direction, they will often become chained to their own unhealthy desires, which will affect them for the rest of their lives.

Illustration: think of the homes you have known where the boys had very little direction or guidance from wise older males. How did many of those boys turn out? How many of them are loving and caring for others rather than themselves?

Does a home without strong guidance affect the adult lives of children? Yes.

We should be cautious in making too much of a connection between man and animals, but there’s a lesson to be learned from The Delinquents of Pilanesberg.

Register now for the Three Desires Seminar in Green Bay, WI. Learn why you and others do what they do. You might be surprised at how clear the answers are. If you’re considering any kind of counseling, maybe consider this seminar first.

Do one more thing before you leave this site: visit the dates and schedule page. This will give you a better feel for the seminar.

AND read this article: Coffee with Alfred. It will give you a feel for one of the major voices that affected our understanding of humanity.