About Us

Two people wanting to make a difference

And what qualifies us to do counseling, and to teach on marriage, parenting, family, relationships, and human desires?


We list this first because it’s most important. We have a deep desire to help marriages, families, and people in Green Bay and other cities.

We care about people, and we want to help you.


Dave has been married to Julie since 1986.

He knows the ups and downs of marriage and life. He’s worked through the hard things.

When you understand the “why,” the blinders will come off and you will see your marriage and all other relationships clearly.

DAVE BENDER has two master’s degrees and over 35 years experience working with people in California and Wisconsin (teens, family counseling, marriage counseling). He’s a counselor and a pastor specializing in marriage and family counseling in Green Bay, WI.


Dave has three adult children who are in their 20s and 30s: girl, boy, girl. Dave is also a grandparent.

Dave and Julie understand the day-to-day ups and downs, and we can help you understand why your children do what they do. When you finally understand the “why” of behavior, then parenting actions become more productive.

Dave is a pilot with an instrument rating and a commercial pilot certificate.


Did you notice we put education last? While education IS important, it’s that other stuff listed above that’s probably more important.


  • Master’s Degree: MABC, The Master’s University
  • Master’s Degree: MMin, Northland International University
  • CCEF School of Biblical Counseling
  • BS, Maranatha Baptist University


Dave Bender is a counselor (The Director of Counseling at The Counseling Center at Bay City) and family pastor at Bay City Baptist Church in Green Bay, WI:

He has taken a particular interest in his studies in researching the “why” of human behavior.

This research has caused him to study and evaluate those who have explored the subject: Aristotle, Pavlov, Watson, Skinner, Freud, Jung, Adler, Maslow, et al.

While each of these has added their own unique contribution to the science of human behavior (anthropology, sociology, psychology), they are not in complete agreement with each other, and it appears that they were unable to understand human motivation at its lowest possible level.

The bulk of Dave’s study on behavior has come from a book that most have set aside as obsolete: the Bible. (Those who treat the Bible obsolete do this to their own peril.)

Yes, it does seem an odd place to search for answers to relationship problems, but this ancient book nails it like no other. The Bible is absurdly deep. No one has ever been able to mine the depths of it.

Dave isn’t just a counselor and a pastor. He’s also a regular person involved in everyday, human relationships. He’s a husband, a dad, a son, a co-worker, and a friend. He enjoys staying active and in shape. Dave is also a pilot with an instrument rating and a commercial pilot certificate.

He understands human relationships and he looks forward to meeting and helping you.

The content of the Three Desires Seminar is derived from Dave’s counseling experience, and from years of intensive research on human psychology from a book some consider outdated: the Bible.

You’ll probably be surprised at how relevant and applicable this ancient book truly is.

As you hear the teaching at the seminar, an interesting thing might happen: you will probably know down deep that you’re hearing the truth about yourself…maybe for the first time.

You too, will likely be surprised at how relevant such an ancient book can be.

After the seminar, if you found the information useless, we’ll immediately refund your registration fee with no questions asked.

What do you have to lose?

And what might you gain?

You will never see yourself or anyone else the same again. And you’ll leave knowing what you have to change.

Before you do counseling, learn the human desires that really drive you and others.

This seminar is presented by The Counseling Center at Bay City, a non-profit, free Christian, biblical counseling center based at Bay City Baptist Church. The center provides marriage counseling, family counseling, addictions counseling, depression counseling, anxiety counseling, and more.

Bay City Baptist Church is also home to Bay City Christian School and Bay City Baptist Deaf Church.